Helping Friends and Family

Domestic violence affects millions each year, and someone you know – whether a parent, sibling, friend, or coworker – may be a victim. It’s vital to recognize the signs and take action, as violence often escalates without intervention.

Recognizing Signs of Abuse

  • Visible Injuries: Have you accepted their explanations for bruises or broken bones?
  • Frequent Absences: Do they miss work often due to “accidents”?
  • Control Issues: Does their partner exert excessive control over their activities?
  • Behavior Changes: Have you noticed shifts in their or their children’s behavior?
  • Emotional State: do they seem frightened or exhausted?

Understanding Victim Dynamics

Victims often face complex barriers that prevent them from leaving:

  • Emotional Ties: Hope for change and dependency can make leaving difficult.
  • Financial Concerns: Fear of economic hardship often holds them back.
  • Custody Fears: Worries about losing custody may complicate their decision to leave.
  • Mixed Emotions: Many victims still care for their abuser due to shared history and emotional bonds.

How to Help

  • Educate Yourself: Learn about the dynamics of domestic abuse to offer informed support.
  • Express Concern: Approach them calmly and express your concern without judgment. Create a safe space for them to share.
  • Guide Them to Resources: Provide them with RESOURCES such as hotlines, counseling, or shelters without pressuring them.
  • Respect Their Choices: Understand that leaving is a complex decision and respect their autonomy.
  • Safety Planning: Help them develop a SAFETY PLAN regardless of their choice to stay or leave.
  • Chick in Regularly: Maintain ongoing support to show they’re not alone, being patient as they navigate their situation.
  • Take Care of Yourself: Supporting someone can be emotionally taxing; prioritize your own well-being.

By approaching this situation with empathy and understanding, you can provide meaningful support to someone in need. If you need additional support, please reach out to our 24-Hour Crisis Line.

All Services are Free & Confidential

  • Local Number: 608-791-2600
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